How to Manifest Your Soul MateA Blue Print: 7 Tips

We hear a phrase referred to a lot when it comes to relationships. 

That phrase is…. Soul Mate. 

What exactly is a soul mate? 

According to Britannica Dictionary a Soul Mate is: 

A person who completely understands you and is perfectly suited to be in a loving relationship with you. 

I know what is its like and how painful it can be searching for love and being alone. Dating can be exhausting, draining and feel defeating. Maybe being alone terrifies you so you keep yourself busy dating people. Or you could be in a relationship that feels like its a dead end but it scares the shit out to go out of your comfort zone and do something different. “I can’t imagine anything else”. The relationship is comfortable but a part of you is dying inside because you can’t be your true self around this partner. Or you can be on the opposite side of the spectrum and being in a relationship terrifies you because you value your independence and freedom. There may be an old fear of being controlled and it’s difficult for you to communicate your needs and how space is important to you in a relationship. 

The first step is to get honest with where you are at. If you are needy, if you are avoidant, if you are stuck and not happy.

Some of my friends nickname me Cupid or would say “Trish your such a love magnet.” 

By “going in” and doing vigorous work on myself I discovered the blueprint for manifesting love. This worked for me and I want to share it with those of you out there searching. 

My intention is to inspire, educate , share awareness and shed light. 

What makes my relationship special?

My fiancé Brandon and I have a very conscious relationship. 

What makes it conscious?

We are both self aware, willing to look at ourselves, our triggers and are willing to communicate thoughts and emotions that are happening for us. 

He is a somatic psycho-therapist and unlike any man I had dated before. 

This is because my frequency switched to a higher vibration. 

I was willing to heal my past, love myself, raise my level of self worth and deservingness. 

The thing that makes our relationship magic, expansive and unconditionally loving is our own relationship to God and our higher selves. We put that first. When we both put our relationship to our souls first, we have this synergy that allows us to see from a higher perspective. 

Even when we are in the deepest of our triggers, we know to take space and tune into what each trigger is teaching us about ourselves. As opposed to blaming the other partner for an issue. We are both very introspective, so it works. 

This has not always been the case for me. 

If you have read previous blogs or know a little bit of my story I struggled with patterns of low-self worth, codependency and love addiction.

Thats right I was a running patterns of needing love and attention externally to fill me otherwise I felt empty. 

It is a thing. 

The cure? 

Name it and be aware of the patterns you are running! 

Quick reminder on what “patterns you are running” means. These are thoughts, behaviors, actions and habits we unconsciously repeat in our lives that don’t serve us. So, when I say be aware of the patterns we are running, the first step to breaking an unhealthy pattern is to bring full awareness to the moment it is happening. 

See….So you can do something about it. 

The crazy thing about being stuck in a pattern of love addiction was that I deeply desired and searched for love outside of myself through many different men.

I realized there was a deep wounding inside me that was terrified of intimacy. It was easier to be in a dramatic relationship, blame the other person and then switch to someone else rather than be alone with myself and look at the hard truth. 

I had a inner child wound. 

It was a deep wound of abandonment that came from my father. It’s not about blaming him, but if I did not bring this to my awareness I was going to continue manifesting love from this place of abandonment and betrayal deep inside myself. All the while recreating one of two things. 

First, abandonment in my external love life with emotionally unavailable men. 

Or second, I would create something to pull them away from me and manifest the abandonment wound over again. 

Now you seeing the patterns?

That is how crazy these unconscious patterns really are. If you do not get ahead of them, these patterns and woundings will manifest not just in your love life but in all areas of your life. It was manifesting in friendships and career, and really the root of the pattern was me abandoning myself for something outside of me.

So I had to experience the uneasiness of hitting rock bottom. Because if I didn’t, I would have never found the willingness to take a big mirror and look at myself.  

Another plus of “hitting bottom” is that I began to learn to love myself, be with myself, heal myself and connect with something much greater than me. 

My higher self, spirit and soul.

In other words…Be my own soulmate. 

Become A “Love Magnet” By Going Inwards

Once I started devoting time to myself and loving myself I became a love magnet. A love magnet meaning I was no longer seeking something external to love me. I filled myself up. I loved myself and my inner world. Once my inner world felt love my frequency switched and the universe started bringing beautiful people into my life whom reflected that love back to me. I saw this reflection in my partner and now fiancé Brandon and my amazing women friends. My relationship with my family members are more loving and better than I could have possibly imagined once I put the relationship with myself first. 

7 Tips to Manifest Your Soul Mate

1.Clean House 

You can’t have any exes or orbiters in your field when looking to manifest a soul mate. By orbiters I’m talking about the guy or chick you call when your bored and have nothing to do but you use each other sexually or emotionally. I get it, it’s hard to be alone. And sometimes it’s easy to grab the phone and text the person we know will answer for a late night emotionally teasing conversation or a booty call. Yet we have no intention to pursue more with this person. This is not judgment. Trust me I’ve been on both ends the one using someone emotionally and I was used. Engaging in this activity will only block your manifesting energy and tell your spirit your not serious about looking for love if you continue to entertain in low self worth patterns so you don’t have to feel something deep and uncomfortable that surfaces when your alone with yourself. This also works the opposite way if you show your spirit your serious and you want someone who is serious and willing to treat you well with respect. When you stop trying to fix or change old relationships that are broken and expired your frequency will shift and new loving potential can be magnetized to you.

2. Give Yourself Time To Heal If You Just Left A Relationship

Heartache and breakups hurt. No matter how conscious you are. Its important to give yourself space and time to heal your heart. This is an opportunity to be extra gentle and loving to yourself. Reconnect with yourself. Sometimes the reason break ups are so hard, especially if you have been with the person for a long time is because their was a part of your identity that was attached to that person. Maybe the places you went, the people you hung out with, the movies and songs you listened to pull you into reminiscing the past relationship. You are mainly grieving that version of yourself that was with the person. Men and women can loose touch with who they are in relationships. So now is an important time to connect with yourself and learn from the past . Ask yourself why did I attract this person into my life? What did this relationship teach me? What was missing ? What do I truly want in a relationship / in a soul mate? Prioritize giving time tor yourself. Learn to enjoy being alone with yourself!

3. Know Yourself. Have a Solid Identity  

If you want to call in a soul mate then you must know yourself at your core, your patterns, and triggers. If you don’t know who you are yet then whoever you call in is going to reflect back to you where you need to give more love to yourself.

It’s important to know or get curious about unconscious patterns, triggers, and  address old trauma and inner child wounds. If you don’t address these then you will continue to manifest the same partner over and over again but with a different face. A partner that likely reflects a wounding from mom dad or both. Take time to heal any codependent toxic patterns, abandonment or love avoidant behaviors. If you want to shift into a new vibration and attract someone with a higher frequency a true soul mate, you must do some soul searching first. Learn to date, love, and nurture yourself , so whatever drama or external situation happens you don’t loose your sense of self. Learn boundaries, stop people pleasing, empower yourself . Do things that level up your self worth so if someone walks away it hurts but it doesn’t take you out. You have your own back and know who you are no mater what happens.  Form a relationship with your inner child. If you need help with that read my blog, “Inner Child Healing- Finding Safety Within.” Work on your self worth and deserving so when they do come into your life you don’t self sabotage the relationship and you can hold space for your beautiful relationship manifestation. 

4. Set Clear Intentions

Write down what you want, and I’m not talking about shallow things like looks. 

What do you really want? 

What does the ideal relationship look like to you?  

This worked for me. While I was healing my heart and dating myself for 6 months before I manifested Brandon, I wrote a letter to my soul mate. Sounds corny, but it is pretty crazy how fast he came in maybe 3 months after I wrote this. Get very clear on what you want. For me it was important my partner was doing work on himself and self aware. Conscious. A loving tender heart but grounded in his masculinity. He needed to have a deep connection to his soul and spirit.  Leave room to be surprised it is important to not let the ego take control but also be clear and don’t sell yourself short! 

5. Release And Let Go/ Trust The Timing

Coming into a state of surrender and neutrality around the timing of when your partner comes in is key to manifesting love. We can get impatient and block the universe orchestrating you two aligning. Do your best to trust and connect with yourself and spirit if you feel impatient.  Remember your impatience attracted the wrong person in the past. If you feel impatient than thats probably a sign you haven’t healed the places inside yourself that your uncomfortable being alone with. If your calling in a conscious partnership your partner may be doing some healing currently in order to manifest and call in you! So if it helps to imagine and and trust your man or woman is doing the work as well to clear up space for you then trust that image. That’s what I did. He or she will pop in when you least expect it. Usually when your not looking.

6. Relationships Are Mirrors

Relationships are great teachers and mirror what’s happening in your internal reality.

If you understand a little bit about the law of attraction like vibration attracts like vibration. Meaning the universe is going to send you a partner that mirrors your internal state. I truly believe our souls came here to grow and learn. So what better way to get to know yourself than in a relationship. Having a partner mirroring back your patterns, your strengths, and also where you need healing. Where you may need to give more love to yourself and address some unconscious blocks that may come up when in union. 

Relationships are work, because you will get triggered.

No doubt. 

Even when you attract your soul mate they will trigger you. The work is for you to bring it back to yourself and get curious about the trigger. Take a step back and don’t blame your partner right away but notice what feelings are coming up that may be really old and bringing you into a lens of your history. When we are triggered we are no longer seeing this reality through the present moment of time but looking through a lens of our history. The trigger is arising to teach you something. So you can bring more conscious awareness to the trigger and learn to communicate what may be happening for you. This will land you in a deeper connection with the person you are in union with. It’s time we get out of the blame game and victim mentality. If you truly want to manifest your soulmate learn to look in the mirror and take radical responsibility for what is coming up for you. Always wrap it back to yourself.

7. Become A Vibrational Match To Your Soulmate

If you want a partner who is highly successful, eats healthy, emotionally intelligent than ask yourself am I successful goal oriented and conscious about what I put in my body?

Am I willing to process and be aware of my own emotions around what’s happening for me internally? Am I good at communicating my needs? 

It is important to be very honest with yourself. This is not meant to judge yourself or be hard on yourself. It’s scanning and noticing where you are at and where you can make some shifts and changes in your personal life so you can be a frequency and vibrational match for the soul mate you want to call in. 

Otherwise you will be calling in a mate from your past history and not from a place of feeling full worthy and complete on your own. Who knows if you start being conscious and mindful of the foods you put in your body and exercise regularly you may meet your soulmate at the gym once you shift your vibration. Or a conscious retreat where you find someone who is willing to make radically changes and passionate about growing alongside you.

You cannot expect to upgrade in love if you don’t take the time love and dedication to focus on the areas you need to grow in as well. 

I embody the teachings and insights I share and I hope they inspire you to self reflect and open up space to call in the love of your life you have been dreaming of. I know it’s possible. We just have to do something different to shift our frequency and see dating from a lens of the higherself.  If you would like support calling in a soulmate and removing any blocks that may be keeping you stuck, please email me iamfrequencyangel@gmail.com.