Alchemize Your Empathic Gifts
How do we find a way out from being dominated by our empathic nature and alchemize it into a soul gift?
Before I dive into what is an empath. I will share with you my own personal journey of not knowing what was wrong with me, discovering I was empath and how I over came it and alchemized it into a soul gift.
For most of my life I struggled with overwhelming anxiety. For as long as I can remember I felt a base line of adrenaline and terror pulse through me. It was hard to be present in my body. In fact I would say I existed far from it. I was so terrified that I felt like it was safer to escape into my head and exist in other realities. Anywhere far far from here. Starting in junior high to my late twenties I was in and out of doctor’s offices desperate in search for a solution. I experienced chronic anxiety, and random panic attacks over what seemed like the smallest of things. Literally crippling me. Bad days would turn into weeks, some weeks turned into months where I experienced waves of depression and could not get out of bed. I had very low energy and chronic fatigue and could not stay awake throughout the day.
Obsessive thoughts constantly bombarded me .
It felt like I was dominated by waves of outside energy and I had no idea what the hell was wrong with me. I was desperate for an external solution. I saw therapists, specialists and doctors who labeled it bi-polar depression, anxiety disorder, addictive tendencies, and Adhd. The tens of prescriptions where a temporary band aid that pushed me further away from my sense of self.
I thought I was crazy.
Little did I know I was highly sensitive to energy and extremely intuitive. If you told me that 10 years ago when I was severely suffering from these symptoms I would of laughed in your face and say that’s a mean joke. Then begged you for a solution anything to help fix me. Each day felt like I was putting on a mask pretending I was okay so I could try to be a functioning member of society. Most people noticed there was something disturbing happening in my inner world. Strangers would tell me you are so pretty turn that frown upside down. But my internal reality felt like a living hell.
I started vanishing before everyones eyes. I stepped on the scale and was less than 90 pounds. I tried controlling what I put in my body and appetite since I seemed to be powerless over everything else.
How did I fully recover from all of this?
By the grace of the universe I had a near death experience which led to an awakening. In this awakening I became connected to the oneness of everything. I was now connected to my higherself and spirit. I realized I was never alone . I was the one disconnected and lost in separation.
As soon as I realized there was something greater guiding me all along I wanted to continue to learn more about clarifying this connection I had with source.
I began to see and sense things I had never sensed before. I started becoming highly intuitive and my spidy senses were coming online. I needed support and guidance trying to process all this information and started learning I was an empath.
There are specific tools I have learned over the past five years which helped me master my own energy. I was no longer dominated by waves of emotions, feelings and the realities of others. It is a daily practice, and yes I still have days where I feel a bit overloaded by the outside world but I know how to come back to coherence and my center today.
I am writing this with the intention to help others who feel like they are empath. So you can empower yourself and no longer be a victim to your empathic nature but alchemize it into a soul gift.
What is an Empath?
An empath is an energetically sensitive soul. They absorb the thoughts, feelings, emotions, and triggers of the environment around them.
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Many empaths do not have a strong sense of self or identity. Most have not healed core wounds such as abandonment, longing, codependency and people pleasing , or the opposite some empaths may isolate and avoid others to protect their personal space.
Empaths tend to put the feelings of others first before their own needs.
They can take on the emotions and problems of others and don’t know how to differentiate their personal feelings from another’s.
Emotional overwhelm can be a side effect and many empaths try to isolate to restore their energy levels.
Some empaths struggle so much with emotional overwhelm they may turn to drugs and alcohol or unhealthy addictions to cope.
Step Into The Empathic Gift:
How to Alchemize
1. Become Aware of Your Own Energy
Spend time alone with yourself so you can get to know your own energy.
Becoming aware of where you end and where others begin. Most empaths need to take space to recalibrate their nervous system and become aware of what is theres and what is others.
Some tools to help you become aware of your own energy is mediation, going out into nature, grounding into the earth, and tuning into a sacred space that is only for you and your higherself/ spirit.
Connecting with the core of the earth and your spirit body exercise.
Below is a short and helpful exercise you can tune into multiple times throughout the day to reset your energy and become aware of your own energy field.
Imagine a pedestal of light connecting your root all the way down into the core of the earth. Visualize, breathe out and imagine sending out the energy you no longer want down through your spine and back into the core of the earth to be recycled into new crystalline frequencies. Then breathe in the pure core of the earth frequencies up through your root to the top of your spine .
Begin to notice or use your fives senses, for empaths specifically start to feel and become aware of your spirit body arms length, above, below , and all around the sides of you.
Imagine a strong bubble or energy field all around you, surrounding you. A bubble that has a solid shield where outside energy can bounce right off you.
Have a safe place just for you and your spirit don’t even invite loved ones in . It’s for you only!
2. Hold Your Space and Establishing Strong Boundaries (especially with those closest to you)
I’m just going to say it. The reason empaths struggle with absorbing outside energy is because of weak boundaries. Boundaries in the physical world and spirit world. An empath’s aura can sometimes look a bit porous and have holes in it. My intention is not to scare anyone but the holes are from allowing others to come into their space and allowing the other person to come in and syphon their life-force energy.
Sadly, the people closest to the empath, lovers, friends, family, clients, co workers are usually the ones who deplete and suck the life force energy from the empath the most.
I’m not saying this to blame anyone I am sharing this is to empower the empath and help educate. Educate and bring awareness to where your physical boundaries are weak .
You may need to start saying NO and quite literally some of you may need to tell some people in the politest way possible to fuck off and get out of your space.
This is you standing up for your self.
You may over shoot the mark because if you aren’t used to standing up for yourself it may come off as harsh to others. Be aware once you start setting boundaries you are guaranteed to start pissing some people off and yes some may leave. Ask yourself is it really worth you sacrificing your life force energy and feeling depleted to continue to staying in connection with this person?
In my experience after I set boundaries I teach people how to treat me. It establishes a level of safety for me and the other person. Then you will attract the right people into your life who honor you and those who are meant to be in your life will be in your life but in a form of honor and not disrespect.
If you continue to let others walk all over you in the physical world then you can count on yourself being a train station for unwanted spirits and energy pushing you around on the other side just as much as you get pushed around in this present moment reality.
This may sound harsh but the most powerful tool for the empath is to learn how to advocate for him or herself and start saying NO!
Having strong boundaries is the most powerful tool for an empath , your personal space is sacred. If you don’t honor your personal space no one else will. We teach others how we expect to be treated.
3. Be Authentic and Speak Your Truth
Scan and ask yourself , where do I betray myself in situations? Are there times when I say yes when I really mean no and no when I want to say yes?
Get honest with yourself and ask where do I hold back from saying how I really feel? How can you ever expect to come into your authentic expression if you fear telling people what is really happening for you or you hold yourself back? Many empaths tip toe around others. A lot of it is from conditioning, learned behavior over time and possibly old trauma responses . Maybe you grew up in a household where you may have been the peace keeper or you walked on egg shells to avoid any conflict at all. Maybe you made a decision when you were young to hold back and not say what was really happening for you because it would upset those you were in relationship with , usually mom, dad or a family member. If this resonates with you then get some support around what happened to you when you were young. Adults can process their own feelings and it is not your job to protect others from having feelings. It will only continue to hold you back and harm you in the long run if you continue to hold how you are really feeling. Take a risk and choose to step out of this old paradigm by speaking up. It’s going to take courage, but you can do this if you want to expand into your authentic expression and no longer feel dominated by the realities of others.
4. It’s Not Your Job To Help, Fix, or Save Everyone
Empaths are extremely empathic and compassionate. It is hard for us to see others in pain because we know how deeply they are hurting. Yet it’s time to let go of the need to save, help or take on the burdens of others. You did not come down here to sacrifice yourself in the expense of protecting others from feeling what belongs to them. You are doing a disservice to yourself and the other. When you help others from a place where you know you are depleted and you don’t have much to give, you are running self sacrifice patterns and choosing to take on their burden. Sacrificing yourself does not help you or the other person. It helps no one. You may be getting in the way of allowing the other person to have the experience they need to have in order to grow and learn or get help from someone who is better suited to serve the situation.
I am not saying don’t help anyone. By all means it is beautiful to serve and help those in need but start to become aware when you are helping from a space where you may be giving yourself away or you are helping when you feel drained, low energy and depleted.
When the airplane is going down we learn to put on our own oxygen mask first then you can help your fellow passengers put on their mask.
These tools have helped me, clients and many others start to establish a strong sense of self and alchemize the struggles of being empathic into a soul gift.
Once you start to become more aware of your own energy, have strong boundaries, speak your truth and let go of the need to rescue everyone you will be beyond amazed by the magic, intuition, inner peace, opportunities and the abundance of energy that will pour into your life. The first step is learning to honor your own space. Know it is sacred. Once you learn to cherish and protect your life force energy and peace of mind, I guarantee, you will have more to give to the world and others around you.
Most of us where never taught these things growing up but it’s never to late to bring awareness and start to make a change today.
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Empaths are some of the most compassionate, empathetic, and understanding people you will meet. They are very intuitive and can read and sense the emotions and feelings of another making them some of the most transformational and inspiring healers, therapists, counselors, coaches, parents, friends, and lovers. Many are connected to source energy and can perceive and read energy and can uplift the energy in a room. With their gifts honed the right way they also have incredible discernment with people and situations many may overlook. They can learn to decipher truth. They feel the truth deep in their core once they learn to stop taking responsibility for processing all the information coming in from the outside world.
If you would like more support honing your empathic gift. Please reach out. I offer coaching and energy healing and reiki sessions.
